A Loving/Berd Wellness Tip... Offering periodic tips and strategies from School Counselor, Mrs. Lauren Berdeguez, and School Psychologist, Dr. Michele Loving:

Fri, 01/18/2019 - 2:48pm

We are off to an excellent start in the New Year at TRES.  With a clean slate and New Years Resolutions, January is the perfect time of the year to talk about goal setting.
We’ve all shared the frustration when we our children (and ourselves) not trying hard to accomplish something when they are perfectly capable.  What can we do?  One way is to foster a growth-mindset or a “can-do” attitude to help your child learn to set goals and meet them.
Parents, here are some ideas for helping your kids with goal setting:

  • Voice and Choice: Allow your child to voice and create ownership with a goal that is meaningful to them.  It can be a goal related to school, home, or social/emotional.  For example, “I would like to learn how to calm down when my brother gets me mad, so I don’t hit him.”
  • Prioritize and Normalize: Help your child to make goal achievement less stressful by helping them keep things in perspective.  Encouraging growth mindset language through, “You can’t _____ YET”.
  • Be the Guide on the Side: Assist your child in re-framing their goals (when necessary) so that they are appropriate and attainable.  Helping them set realistic time frames is necessary,  “I will practice calming exercises for 5 minutes a day".
  • Shared Visions and Decisions: Appreciate that sometimes what you want, and what they want will be different.
  • Celebrate and Appreciate: Help them find value in goal setting/achievement process by providing recognition and validation.

For assisting your child with making social/emotional goals check out  Mrs. B’s Counseling Corner. Please, consult with Dr. Loving or Mrs. Berdeguez if you need more information or would like to discuss a referral for additional support.
Take care of each other, TRES!